Have you ever fed a wild animal in a park like a squirrel or a chipmunk?
They RARELY if ever accept something from your hand...
If put the gift OUT there, they will likley pick it up and scurry off with it, but if you try to PRESS them to take it by walking towoards them or by trying to bait them into taking it from your hand, they will likely run away.. or at the very least decline the offer.
Your wife is that wild animal right now... put the gift out there, but let HER decide if she wants it...
Make yourself dinner and make extra, let her know its there and leave her alone... If she takes it, that's great, but don't offer to make it for her, don't prepare the meal and hand it to her or anything... just make it and leave HER to PURSUE it
Yes, she may accept it, but you are still applying PRESSURE.. what you are trying to DO here is to create a BUFFER of space so SHE can come to YOU...
If you SMOTHER HER and are hanging at her heels, she won't pursue you, she will have no inclination to be curious or to explore what you are about or anything...
You need to give her the space so SHE can come to YOU...
