Originally Posted By: Allen A
Tell her about the event, and that she is welcome to come along... do NOT ASK her to GO... THAT is pursuit

The IDEA OIN, is to leave HER with the control to chosoe or not.. without ANY influence on your part.


Agreed. I had a DB coach give me similar advice; if you want to do things with her, let her know what is going to happen and let her know she is welcome to go with you. If she wants to go, she can tell you, and don't let her participation affect your decision to go.

Me: 44, Wife: 39
M: 17 years T: 20 years
Bomb on 08/25/09
1/13/10: MC started
1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs
8/28/10: Wife moved out
No talk of D, no movement

"Every day is another chance to get it right."