SD, Excellent post. Sage advice. I particularly like this
Originally Posted By: SDFoundGirl
just ignore the phone calls and voicemails BECAUSE THEY'RE NOT ABOUT YOU, THEY'RE ABOUT HIM. Turn over anything threatening or abusive to your lawyer, because he will know how to use it to back him off or at least use it to your advantage to get what you want.
And of course, this:
Originally Posted By: SDFoundGirl
And when your H acts like who he is (AKA, a giant jerkwad)
was pretty damn funny, too.

Gardener

"My soul, be satisfied with flowers,
With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
Cyrano deBergerac