H4L: RW - I never thought my H had NPD - but I still read that author quite abit to learn to be less codependant, and set firmer boundaries around verbal abuse. Lately I'm starting to wonder if he actually does...
My IC warned heavily against people diagnosing themselves or their spouses with personality disorders out of self help books and articles. She says the nuances are very difficult for professionals to diagnose and takes time and there are a lot of authors (some with grad. psych degrees of some sort) portryaing it as very cut and dry and that it's dangerous and leads to b.s. Makes sense really. Long story short, don't worry about NPD and your H. You've got enough on your plate.
