Thanks Snodderly for your insight. It is always welcome.
I am becoming more detached as the days march on. Initially it was difficult but it does get easier.
Interestingly over the last week or two I tend to think of me instead of us. I am starting to identify things for me in the future rather than for us in the future.
I am getting out and about and finding the old me whilst watching H whizz pass on his rollercoaster.
I have now realised that this is a journey of discovery for me too.