Ironically, right before we married we had an argument about the fact that she wanted his last name as her middle name (she originally had no middle name) and then my family name as her last name. Then she wanted to hyphenate both names. I had an issue with that and she finally agreed to leave her maiden (latin) name as her middle name. Confusing. And even back then she would not explain her reason for wanting to do that. Her rivers run deep I guess.
My XW is a Latina and I am an Anglo so maybe there was some cultural significance to this that I was not aware of. I was young, dumb and full of love back then after all LOL.
Another irony is that her changing her name has actually helped me to detach (although not get closure).
Anytime I get the urge to contact her, all I have to do is think about her ditching my family name for his and I promptly put the phone back on the hook. It's not healthy but it works like charm.
Me:48 W:55 M:22 T:23 Bomb:19Nov09 S:15Jan10 D:11Feb10 EA:Confirmed on 20Apr10 Fast track to her divorcing me
