flowmom | need to commit to myself

[Cautious]

Something I learned from my sitch that I THINK might apply here (forgive me if I'm wrong, though) is that you can't keep fixing the relationship between your children and your H. He has to be responsible for that. I admire you wanting S6 to feel special, but you can't make up for a loss that H caused. I understand how it concerns you, though, and I usually do one of two things: either mention to H the comment in a non-confrontational way or help my son bring it up. I usually go to my son first, whether that's right or wrong, because I want him to be confident enough to bring this stuff up on his own. If my approach is met with some gentle (or not-so-gentle) resistance, I'll mention to ExCautious "S5 said some things the other night about you I thought I should mention, because he is uncomfortable bringing it up himself and I think he's really hurt."

I don't know if I would personally enlist H's help with scheduling special time with D3 while you do the S6 thing, but you know better than I do if that's a good idea. Fortunately, I have a brother who is THRILLED when he gets to see my S5 (has no boys of his own, all girls!), so I usually enlist his help instead. All part of MY 180's - not relying on ExCautious's help.

Just some suggestions, I know you'll execute anything you set your mind to fabulously!