Starting Over (Again)

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I think that's a personal decision you would have to make based on your own level of self control.

I have read many times on this board that if your not sure about what to do then do not do anything at all until your ready. That way you makes less mistakes out of angst. Sleep on it if you have to.

My understanding is that you are doing exactly what I am doing with my X. Gone grey. If so I would not block the number but I am strong enough to at least act like I am detached. So that would be your judgement call.

Oddly enough I have not heard from or seen my XW for almost a month and she calls me out of the blue today for something she really needed to call our (grown) Son about. Most likely she simply wanted me to help her with a problem since our Son is hard to get ahold of. She can figure this one out herself. I am no longer her husband by her choice.

Your sitch is different though since you have a young child. I personally would make my child priority regardless and not block calls at all. That's just me.

As to what your H is thinking...who knows. But it sounds like he is using your child as a reason to contact you. Wouldn't that be a good thing? Sorry if im off base. Havent been to your thread in a while. I guess I have to ask again, what is your goal in going grey?

Mine are pretty simple.

1)Help me detach from her and lesson the impact of the pain of divorce on me.

2)Show her I can live without her but still care for her.

3)Leave an open door for her but let her understand that I will not put my life on hold for her and that this open door is not permament, nor eclusive only to her.

4)Show her I have grown, improved, matured and learned from my mistakes. Not for her but for me. But she and others can benefit from those changes if they so choose.

It's her decision to make or to ignore. Either way my life will go on for the better. And I think this should apply to your H as well.