I am so pleased and so in love again. I just can't keep the smile off my face.
I pray that the feelings don't change. I know I am going to work on keeping them from changing, but I now also have skills to try to protect and save my marriage should we drift apart again and not stay as close.
Maybe now (with time and gentle exploring), I can see if my wife would like me to become an Alpha-male in the bedroom that you have talked about. I don't think that I will try that for quite awhile, but she has surprised me in her changes and attitude about sex and genital touching over this past month. Who knows what the future might bring. I guess I will never say never and see what she likes.
I do know that she really likes it that I spent quite a bit of time reading up on foot reflexology. She liked the foot massage I gave her last night. Our joint sex therapist even scolded me for not having given my wife a foot massage, in the week prior to our therapy session last week. So both women have put me on notice that this is something that I need to do and do often. While not really alpha male behavior, it does seem to be special.
This morning my wife and I lay in bed and talked. I brought her a second cup of coffee so we could stretch out our quality time together. Then to stretch it even further, I asked her if she would advice me on my cleaning out some of the old shirts that might be too big for me with the weight that I have lost.
She has been after me to clean out the closet, so I wanted to do that for her and I didn't want to really stop being close to her this morning. So it was an act of service/devotion to her on my part. So there she was propped up in bed with me, in my boxers, trying on shirt after shirt and her saying "toss it" or "no, that still looks good on you." We now have more room in the bedroom closet for her clothes to slide past the halfway point in the hanging rack.
Thank you for your past support.
signed Young at Heart, with a heart that is singing happiness and feeling loved
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
