That's great H4L . So you got a new computer? That was a concrete thing to did to address a source of conflict, and that positive thing let to more positive: him helping you to set it up. It sounds like he appreciated what you did to solve the problem, and that generated goodwill in him. And that's a functional relationship dynamic .
I think that you should schedule something involving people who love and support you on the day before bomb-aversary...dinner party maybe? And also something on day after.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
. So you got a new computer? That was a concrete thing to did to address a source of conflict, and that positive thing let to more positive: him helping you to set it up. It sounds like he appreciated what you did to solve the problem, and that generated goodwill in him. And that's a functional relationship dynamic 
