still separated, in limbo, still hopeful

[flowmom]

Newmama, Cbug's reality check doesn't paint an optimistic picture of your sitch but there are truths that must be recognized .

OTOH, no one here has a crystal ball either...we don't know if you will end up being glad that you stuck through the "be the better option" strategy, or if you will end up regretting putting your life on hold.

I do believe that you will be OK either way. If you end up having to let go of your hope for reconciliation, you will experience the anguish and grief, then you will move on and live your life for you and your S.

Others may see your wish to reunite your family as a sign of weakness on your part, and it's true that our wishes for our children make us very vulnerable. But I also know from experience that as a mother I can draw on an inner well of strength. It's not a strength that looks tough or hard or assertive...it's the strength that allows the marsh grass to flex in the wind, then rebound. That kind of strength makes a lot of good things happen in this world...I see that strength in you

Are you in IC? If not, that seems like a good idea...to develop a therapeutic relationship that will be there for you no matter what in the next few months. You can put your decision point in the future, but you must not defer self care (including of your inner self).