Petals, MLC and any crisis/transition can be confusing, especially for the one who has to sit on the sidelines and watch the actions.
You will need to try to find a way to change your mindset for a bit. This is going to be difficult, but you will need to view your h as a friend or someone you know from work, etc. Right now, he's still trying to figure himself out and doesn't want to feel guilty about anything he does, nor does he wanted to be reminded of responsibility and accountability. So, here's what I would suggest...do not call or email him unless it's an absolute emergency or financial stuff. Do not make up excuses to call him. Allow him to call you and there are going to be times when he questions you about what you are doing.....do not spill everything. You can tell him some of what you are doing, but not all of it. He's got to learn that you are not sitting at home or by the phone waiting on him. Life has to continue on for you and that means working on you and changing your focus from him to you and your life.
Hang in there. Read as much as you can and jump in other threads..there is always someone here.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
