MLC Children - when do they appear in MLC??

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I agree to disagree w/what HB has stated. The children will appear in replay and will continue throughout until they have resolved all of their issues. HB may have seen the children appear in h's situation during acceptance, but the cases that I have had the "pleasure" of witnessing have begun in replay and carried forth until the final settling.

They have to go back in time to the where they were emotionally stunted; and in many cases, that was when they were very young or teens....that's why you see them pop out periodically. They have to go back and deal w/the issues and learn how to grow up. They are "teething" when they are acting out as young adults. It's normal and if you can step back and detach from the drama, you will see and hear many things that will clue you in as to where they are in the "age" stunted periods.

Step back, allow him to grow up, give him plenty of space and above all, dig deeper than you ever have for patience. Please try not to take what he says or does personally, for he is lashing out at the authority figure from long ago and the demons that have been buried so deeply for such a long time. Try to focus on you and your family, be kind to yourself, plan things that will keep your mind off of him and his behavior, above all keeping saying to yourself: "this is all about him, not about me".