I have let go for the most part, living my life if he is with me or not. That is a good thing. I do find that my H doesn't seem to let me get too far away from him and that is reassuring for me. It would be nice to have him make some more movement toward coming home but I have to remind myself that he needs to do this when HE is ready.
You are a Staunchion; or Pillar of Strength to your husband; the fact he is not letting you get too far, is evidence that you are the "lighthouse" in his storm, and he is continuing to move toward you.
This is a good thing, indeed.
Only you would know the differences in the last time and now, as YOU know your situation better than anyone. Believe it or not, you DO know him better than you think, in spite of the MLC journey he is still on.
Your post is much calmer; as you're seeing some things in a different light now; and it is reassuring to yourself that letting go, and moving along AS IF he's not there is reeling him toward you.
I know this is hard, nothing good is EVERY easy to attain; it takes work and more work to get there...even if there is NOTHING you can do for the moment, you are STILL working at it.
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You will find your way through this. It isn't always easy and we don't always get the outcome that we are hoping for but this journey forces you to grow and become stronger. You will get there just keep putting one foot in front of the other. Before you know it, you will be able to look back and see how far you have come.
This is TRUE wisdom that can be applied to ALL situations, regardless of whatever we may face in our lives. Well said, Upside, and SO true.
You're a very strong lady, you always were.
Continue to keep us posted; have a great weekend with your husband.
Much love, HB
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
