It is natural to angry. It is part of the grieving/healing process. You just can't hold on to the anger. When you do get angry to remember that your H is in pain and try to find your compassion. It is so difficult to do when they blame you and everyone else for everything. I know you need to accept that the M is over to help you move on however, none of us knows what the future has in store. Just know that the more your try to understand what your H is going through and have empathy, the better it will be for rebuilding some kind of relationship with your H even if it is just co-parenting. My first H, who I divorced 15 year ago, and I can not stand each other. He (and his OW/now W) continues to blame me for everything...he even sent me an email a few weeks ago about Parental Alienation Syndrome because my D16 decided 6 months ago that she doesn't want to go back and forth between houses anymore and want to stay with me. He accused me of being an "obsessed alienator". He can never look at himself for anything. I just wonder if I had more understanding of what he was going through way back when, maybe we could have had built a better co-parenting relationship which would have helped our children.
