The way she makes it sound, we won't have the opportunity to discuss anything when I get home. For some reason she's afraid to see me. You saw where she wants to drop me off and go. She doesn't want me to talk her out of anything. I'm way beyond that at this point. i don't contact her unless she contacts me, and I've removed my wedding ring.
Here's the deal, you are letting her lead the show here and you're just going along with it and it's something pretty much all LBH's do. You feel that if you just let go of the need to lead, to set the direction, that your WAW's will be more receptive, loving, caring and change their minds because of this new change in you but it is the wrong thing to do.
If she wants to leave you, fine. That's should be your attitude. But she's going to have to see you eventually and spend some time talking about certain matters in person.
I would call or text her and tell her this, "I've changed my mind, I just can't find the time or mental focus to discuss the financial matters while I'm over here. I have to be honest that I can't think about this the right way while I have so much going on over here, this will unfortunately have to wait until I get back."
Honestly I really don't understand the need you both have to discuss the financial matters such as dipping into your retirement (don't do it), selling the boat (sure maybe but probably a bad idea in this economic environment) and trading in your truck for a cheaper one (cool). Seriously what would be the use? What will this achieve by being discussed over the phone? Why can't this be discussed when you get home? Heck you want to talk about all of this over the phone when you get back, knock yourselves out!
Or is this an excuse you have just to talk to her for an extended period of time? Again I'm just saying that I don't see why it makes any difference, why can't you just leave it till you get back home?
You will have the opportunity to discuss this and many things when you get back home - because that's YOUR call, it can't just be about what's convenient for her, get that out of your mind.
That part about her being afraid to see you, what's up with that? You've been gone for several months and she doesn't even want to see you at all? Seriously, something's going on - either with her or with you, something isn't adding up properly here.
