Oh, and I forgot to add, that if WH contacts me sometime soon to tell me he has found a job interstate, the Coach today said I'm to simply reply, "I kinda thought you would" - without blaming or being bland (I thought that was an interesting word to use.. I guess don't sound numb or dazed), but confident and friendly.
Also, got an email a few mins ago from WH's younger brother, who has had his visa accepted to come to the Southern Hempishere on a 1yr working holdiay. It seems he's going to be staying with me and my family!! Which I'm delighted by. It's what we always planned. And I look like the one who'll be picking him up from the airport. He's giving me his unconditional support so I am not going to turn it down to spite my WH. WH's whole family thinks what he is going is very wrong, and call me regularly to see how I am doing.
I do wonder what my WH will think when we are having big family dinners without him? Makes me sad to think of it. But have to remember: this is his choice, his choice, his choice!
Questions still unresolved are: What I do about our joint finances? Do I need to set up my own bank acc into which my salary goes..the salary that dries up a few months into maternity leave, btw! (L should help with this)
What do I do about our apartment - rent it out to save myself some money, or go back and live in it? (L might set me straight on some issues around this also). Couch seemed to think it would be more attractive to WH if I was not bunking in at my folks.
What do I do about WH stuff filling up my parent's garage (has been the case since we moved o/seas 3 yrs ago)
In summary: Will separating finances push us closer to a divorce? Will moving his stuff out push us closer to divorce? Will living with my folks push us closer to divorce?
Me 36; H 40 baby born in May M:13, T:15 Bomb (OW): Dec 09 began DBing: Feb WH overseas with OW old: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2027369#Post2027369
