setting boundaries when not clear if A is over

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I plan to do as you say NM, and sit back, enjoy the last 2 months of this pregnancy as much as I can. The 2nd trimester has been a shambles, to say the least.

Ok, so big news. I had my first DB coaching session.

Confirmed some fairly ugly truths about me:
--I am needy emotionally and socially.
--In our 2yrs overseas, I was a financial burden on H
--I was often sullen, grumpy and nagging with H
--I made H feel undesireable sexually.

We also discovered that my H probably sees me a bit like his mother.. someone who devours him with her high-voltage 'emotionality'.

Decided on the following course of action:
1. Let H know that I "get it" that he is done with the M. Also acknowledge it to myself. And acknowldege that the future we now have is the joint investment in our child.
If I continue to tell him what he is doing is wrong, he will just go further to show me that he's right.

2. Acknowldege to H that all this emotionality is too much for him, but it's also too much for me & the baby. Let him know that space is good for me right now, and that I 'own' this seperation too (it's not something he's done to me, but that WE are taking time apart).

3. Work on improving myself and what kind of mother I am going to be. If it's a single-mother, then think about how I am going to do it.

So that's generally what advice was given. I think it's good advice.

As I am not initiating contact, not sure when I will get the chance to communicate the above to H.