If her sleeping all day, not chipping in with the household duties, spending more than she made, not taking care of her child and so on was so unacceptable to you why didn't you do anything to change it?
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If that was the case why didn't you request she begin to bring in more money?
See what I am saying? If ALL of these line items were so bad while they were happening and you saw no signs of improvement why didn't you do anything to try and change the living situation for the better? And if you did try and change it and nothing improved why did you continue to tolerate it when you clearly find it intolerable now?
She worked, and still works, 6 of 7 days per week. So I dont think there was any way for her to make more money without picking up another job...and to even suggest such a thing when I was unemployed would send her into a rage.
As far as why I didnt do anything to try and imporve her behavior or put my food down and not tolerate it...I did. I tried many times but the response I always got from her was "maybe its time i find a new place for me and our daughter".
To this day such an attitude pisses me off. i mean how the hell was I supposed to respond to that? My choices were to let her do whatever she pleased...or face her leaving with our daughter...and this started back when D3 wasnt even D1 yet...back when I would try to get her to come home instead of going out after work to help take care of our D when she would wake up every few hours in the night.
The day in Nov when she told me we were over...it was because of a fight we had that morning where I wanted her to save her vacation to spend with family at thanksgiving and she wanted to go out to see the Rockettes.
When all this first went down...and I was still hung up on my ex...my mom reminded me of all the times when I would call her because my ex went out and I was home alone taking care of the baby and I would say to her "I dont know how much longer I can take this."
And when my unemployment does run out I do plan on getting a job anywhere. But to just take any job now that pays less than my unemployment does so that I can say I have a job is doing a disservice to myself and D3. instead of making ends meet without worry, it could turn into struggling to make ends meet.
And to MB I was hanging around a lot...thats one thing my ex took umbridge with. On top of it angering her that I brought in more on unemployment than she did working 6/7 days per week, it angered her that I was at home all the time. She couldnt run around town with D3 or without feeling guilty for not taking me along like she did when I worked and like she does now.
