Maynard, thank you for posting. You have a lot of good advice there.
I don't know if I would reccomend acting casual. I find when there is an affair going on acting casual sends an implied message of being OK with the affair.
We don't want to send a mixed message.
You PROTEST the affair.
You tell EVERYONE you CAN that its HURTING your family and your HOME is under attack.
You do NOT protest to the wife.
you tell her you want to save your marriage and your family and that divorce just makes eveyrone feel worse.
When you are in your home you just look BUSY.
Not happy, not sad, just busy.
You leave your wife alone. If she asks you something, you answer with as few words as possible and end the convo as soon as you can.
We need regular updates ken, on the status of both the affair and your wife's behaviour.
Don't apologize for ANYTHING to do with the affair or saving your marriage.
If you step on her TOE or something, sure, apologize, but do NOT apologize for exposing the affair or protecting your home from marital predators like that creep friend of hers.
If he's going to trash her marriage AND his he's NOT a friend... he's a creep and a predator.
YOU need to PROTECT your wife from creeps like that.
NEVER let some guy spend time in PRIVATE with your wife dude... NEVER.. bad idea!!!
