Husband in Crisis - what do I do?

[Gnosis]

Hi Destiny,

I have been ill for the last couple of days.

I hope you're feeling better.

My mother and sister came in today to spend a few days with me.

I'm glad that your family is there to support you.

This is usually stressful for me because I just don't want to be judged

You won't be and you won't let them. Judgment is reserved for your creator.

but I am also attempting to let them help with boundaries.

That is good to hear. Remember: Boundaries are all about you and how you wish to be treated. They can be applied to everyone in your life - your family and friends included. This is the standard template for boundaries:

Setting: When you _____, I feel ______, I want __________ .
Enforcing: if you ______ I will __________ .

An example:

When you yell at me I feel disrespected. I want that to stop as of right now. If you lose your temper again I will hangup the phone in your ear.

I continue to pray on my M, but I am very discouraged because of everything that has happened.

I hear you. Have courage. You are stronger than you think and even know. Keep your faith.

I am wrought with angish over my H's MLC and him being w/someone else.

That is understandable. You know that everyone here knows exactly what you are going through. If you let us we can guide you through the process.

Not sure what applies in my situation because I have heard that God does not like divorce.

You will know what applies when you reach an inner peace about your decision. It will take time because His timing is unlike ours. While you are waiting on his decision to come through you're going to work on yourself.

My IC is going to help me with coping skills

That is good to hear.

indicated that my H is lashing out (at this point through text messages and email) at me because he is still trying to justify his behavior and decisions. It appears that he is telling his family that he tried by going to counseling (3 times).

Do not concern yourself about that. The above is what is commonly referred to as 'script.' It's in your best interest now to ignore and try to not let it affect you. It's easier said than done... we know... but it is doable so take heart in that.

I hope everyone is doing well and that you continue to persevere in your situations.

I'm feeling better now knowing that you have a support system in place and you are surrounded by people who love you.

The first priority right now is YOU. This is what you need to work on. Forget about the rest and build up your strength. It's good to hear from you again.