Not sure what kind of account she has, but if you're going to do that you have to mark it as unread when you're done.
You will likely get all kinds of script for your intel, assuming you get caught: "you don't respect my privacy, I don't respect you, I don't love you, I can't live like this, you're crazy, etc etc.'
If you are going to monitor intel, DO NOT EVER GIVE UP YOUR SOURCES...DONT TELL ANY FRIENDS, ETC...
This sitch may be drawn out for months, YOU WILL HAVE A LOT ON YOUR MIND.
Post here, delete your history, ALWAYS wait for advice before you do anything.
If you look at my sitch and the dates, I truly started posting almost 2 months after the BOMB- I MADE EVERY MISTAKE YOU CAN MAKE- when I needed advice and guidance the most I wasn't posting here, that would have saved me alot of grief.
If she's going to meet OM, dont question her when she comes back, not where were you, what did you do, etc.
When she leaves, don't even ask where she's going.
Right now, you are the enemy to her...you need to be as emotionless, but as pleasant as you can be- ALWAYS-
Don't engage her in conversation unless its the basics...dont ever ask, "what do you want to do about us, how do you feel about us, etc."
W and I had coffee every morning- we would have casul conversation most of the time...when she was done talking she would get up and go inside- my dumbarse would follow her back in the house...DO NOT DO THAT...
You need to come off as independant, strong, confident, and easy going person that you can be...you will prob have to force youself to at first, but if you know everything you're up against it will get easier.
She is in a lot of pain, she is confused, she doesn't know what she wants...you will remind her of EVERYTHGING she doesnt want if you pursue her or pressure her...
Tomorrow you'll prob get a lot of added info...if you havent read DR or DB, go buy them...they are just for you.
Buy books on communication and what ever else has contributed to your M being where it is now.
DO NOT READ PASSAGES to your W, do not leave them out on a specific page yet, do not teach her what you've learned...
Everything is action based...
I have some advice about OM, but see what Allen and Puppy have to say.
For now, dont get busted and dont freak out on her about him...
