New here but have been a voyeur

[nicole8]

I do feel the same as you....am I abandoning my husband? or am I enabling him. Our situations are certainly not the exact story, however similar enough. I am such an impatient person and the waiting and not knowing what to do just drives me crazy. Totally crazy! I too feel like to just shake my husband and tell him to wake up from this bizaar nightmare.

I know this probably didn't help any, but I feel your pain......being stuck on the ride and wanting off.

I find myself asking constantly if I could look back 10-15 years from now and be happy with my husband and the "ride" on this roller coaster would have been worth it. Or should I get off the "ride" now and then 10-15 years from now would I regret giving up on what could have been? Should I just divorce him and if he wakes up from the weird place he is, would he come find me?

I hate the unknown and I feel like I am just drifting along on a ride that doesn't stop.