Oh Hoosier, thank you so much for what you are saying! You know, a lot of times, the types of suggestions I made for you just sound like a load of fluffy hype that won't do any good to a woman who really needs them. It sometimes sounds like just stupid things that may puff up your ego for a while, but won't make any long term difference....but these suggestions WILL make a difference! I'm so glad you felt the way you did about them. Its so important to really see yourself differently, and the only way to begin to do that is with some really tough self-love, like the mirror exercise. The kind of exercises where you just will NOT allow yourself to beat yourself up anymore (also like you and the other posters were saying in earlier posts). To a woman who is really down in the dumps, as you were a year or so ago, suggestions like the ones I made just sound like too much energy for little to no payback, and its hard to muster up the type of courage it takes to execute them. At those times, its easier to just sort of give up and let yourself feel low and crappy for a time.
But you've come a long way since then...enough time has passed that now you seem ready to stop feeling the pain and start with the gain. The pain is normal and necessary at first. But eventually, when you begin to truly move on, you also want to move onward and UPWARD. To get out of the funk of your old life, you've gotta just fake it til you make it with these bitchy suggestions. But they do work, I've seen it many times.
I love hearing about your extra blonde! Myself, I am so brunette that I can never really go blonde, so I'll always be envious of you gals who can do it. However, I am turning quite gray lately and have decided to just let them come on in...the sooner I turn all gray, the sooner I can turn those grays into blondes and be a hottie like you! ;0)
Hoosier...you are going to come out of all of this as a new woman. I'm so sorry it took a horrid divorce to get you here...but at the same time, your ex-H didn't deserve you and NEVER WILL. Those are hollow words in the beginning of the disatrous journey of divorce, but hopefully by now you are really starting to feel the truth in there.
