My UFO (unbelievably fabulous observations)

[hoosiermama]

Ah, DQ--I'm blown away by the content and the volume of your post! It's always so humbling to me that someone I don't know can spend so much time and effort sharing their experience for my benefit!!

Got the panty thing down! I think I did that a little over a year ago--for exactly the reasons you described!! I even bought a few bra/panty sets. Also went thru my closet de-frumping it--and need to re-do that. Colored my hair lighter blonde (everyone I haven't seen for awhile seems very pleasantly surprised by that), changed some makeup colors and techniques.

Really I wasn't asking those questions rhetorically! So thank you for the practical advice. I have come a looooooong way over the past 2 years or so since the bomb. I occasionally do see a beautiful woman looking back from the mirror. But the daily affirmation and focus would be a good thing. Of course I still have some bad days, but they're just that--days, not weeks and years of not liking myself.

Much of this came from working hard to get thru some issues, but part of it came from someone finding me beautiful and sexually desirable. It's been soooo long since I've felt that way, and I just stopped thinking of myself as a sexual being. I thought that part of me had died. But now I feel more whole than I have felt in a very long time--I have that part of me back.

Thank you, thank you for caring enough to post DQ--and everyone else! I believe I am turning a corner, and I can't believe how wonderful that feels.