I am working with my mortgage company to get a modification so I can afford the house - neither of us could have sustained the previous mortgage terms alone. Its a long process and takes alot of paperwork - clearly this is much harder when It takes both of us - because we both are still on the mortgage - but we aren't working as a team anymore....
Today I got a call from the underwriter telling me that he needs copies of H's bank statements(his personal acct) in order to move forward with the process. I start freaking out internally... It scary when something you NEED relies on the cooperation of someone you don't TRUST! I thought about it and came up with a plan. I CALLED H thinking I would have to leave a message and.... He ANSWERED (first time that has happened)... I told him what was going on and asked if he would be willing to fax the docs directly to the processor so I wouldn't see them and ... He said he would.. I was shocked! I totally thought he wouldn't help me - I thought he would use this as a way to force me to sell, which is what he keeps threatening to do...
So he's going to help me (us really because he is still on the mortgage) and we chatted about his email last night but then I said "I have to go, I'm late for a meeting. Anything else we need to discuss will have to wait till another time" and hung up....
I stayed off the roller coaster and I don't feel the crazy emotions at all!!!
Really amazing thing... I didn't feel anything when I talked to him. Nothing... He sounded empty - not the man I loved - he sounded like a hollow human being.... It must really suck to live that life and be that way...
I'm getting the hang of this... FINALLY!
T
ME28,WAH30, M 5YRS, T 7YRS ,OW/ILYBNILY/SEP 9/09 Served with D papers 6/6/10 Current
