If he is NPD or has any other symptoms of any other Cluster B PD...odds are not good that he'll ever change.
But unless you're a psychologist; you can't make a diagnosis of him and he has to be the one to get treatment. I would make that a "must-have" for recon. He needs serious treatment; 3-5 years of it, most likely. Some of those statements that you wrote are almost word for word what I have heard from my W. She has been told that she's possibly HPD and my IC thinks she's BPD. All the PD's are close and if a person has one; they likely have symptoms from another.
