Allen's idea of getting phone counseling from the Divorce Busting coaches sounds good to me. You could start with individual counseling and then see about moving it into joint counseling. In the meantime they will help with ideas on how to rebuild the friendship with your wife.
Some tips I got from a coach:
* Give her her space. Take this time to work on yourself.
* Show her through your actions that you are taking this rift in your marriage seriously. Counseling, reading books, etc.
* When things are a little better between you and your wife, you might occasionally ask her if she wants to go do something with you during your GALing. If she doesn't, then go anyway. You are being interesting without being secretive, and you aren't shutting her out of your life.
* Also, show some interest when she mentions things she wants to do or see. If she doesn't invite you, no big deal; you have other plans.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
