I found that she had been talking to a guy that she knew from high school. My cell phone bill showed dozens of calls in a month, the longest for 4 hours ending at 3 am.
I called her on it. She said they were old friends catching up. That was a couple of days ago. Feeling like I was being played, I snooped today. It was more than that. They hadn't met and she seems to have ended it.
I called her and told her I thought there was more than just catchimg up. She denied it.
I told her that I promised to hold on and wait for as long as I could, and this was as it. It was time. She was tough and agreed. As the conversation progressed, she broke into tears, but kept with the D talk. She never asked that we try. I think she has seen D as the ultimate goal for over a year and was just waiting for me to make this move.
She wins. We all lose.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.