Allen's idea of getting phone counseling from the Divorce Busting coaches sounds good to me. You could start with individual counseling and then see about moving it into joint counseling. In the meantime they will help with ideas on how to rebuild the friendship with your wife.
I noticed in the reconciliation with my husband, that we were really improving when I started laughing at his jokes. When I was angry at him, I just gave him a ha-ha when he made one of his jokes. But when we were getting on better, I realized I was laughing with him for the first time in a long time.
