My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

[nicole8]

I think you are right lolawar.... However, I just had my first IC session. I'm not sure much was accomplished other than me doing alot of talking. I guess alot has happened the last 6 months or so, hence alot to talk about. The C suggested I contact my husband and ask my H how often we should talk. I don't really know what to think about this. I am pretty sure he is going to say NEVER....maybe not, just depends on what mood he is in that day. I think he will be more than likely annoyed with the question.

The C didn't deny that I could be correct about my husband being depressed or is going through some sort of personal crisis. He said it sounds like our marrige has been in limbo for awhile and won't change quickly. I knew this already. He also said that there is hope for our marriage to be saved. However, my husband thinks there is no marriage to save.

The C also said that it is going to take time for my husband to figure out what he needs to do to get help and all I can do is help him to facilitate that. He also said it might be nice if my MIL said he should be at home working on his marriage, unless he is at her house to work on a divorce.

I think that he IS at her house because he is working on a divorce in his mind....oh wait in reality he is still on his vacation at her house talking/seeing the OW.

I have an appointment next week and I really hope more can be accomplished than me just talking about our background and what has transpired. I am going to stay dark and see what transpires over the next few days. I think lolawar is right that I should give it time to see if it does work.

There seems to be a definite roller coaster with highs and lows with the H. I don't know what he will do or say next. So I should at least wait to see if he does more pursuing.

Expect the worst and hope for the best