Struggling with Hope

[Jack_Three_Beans]

I chimed in elsewhere but for the experience.

Nothing quite like feeling gutted.

I knew, or heavily suspected enough. I confirmed the PA.

I expressed my displeasure...however, I MLC DBed...and didn't say anything at first. ALL relationships have to die on their own. And I saw enough examples of what confrontation did. So I kept to my changes and was supportive of all else she was doing. Which included lying to me when I was stpuid enough to ask her about it. She SAW how I could be.

I eventually confronted her...if by confront you mean kick her out and reallocate half of our money into my own savings account getting into a yelling match on the phone...

Things got better between us, and I totally bit on her lies about OM. While I DID fall for them, I still DBed and dettached and validated and yadda yadda yadda.

When however the day passed that she set down as the day he would no longer be in her life and she was still sleeping with him.

That is when I was LRT done.

months later she begged for another chance...and after a rocky year of piecing things got better. Much.

So while I support confrontation, I think the MLCer should SEE to the BENEFIT of the LBSer the good REAL changes they have made before any confrontation.

NOT blind stupid old confrontation of a jealous realationship that is stick a fork in it done.