If the murderer is just put behind bars it wont likely do anything, but if the murderer is sentenced to death...or if the mother is the one to go after and execute the murderer, vigilante style, it could bring her some relief. It harkens back to the notion of "an eye for an eye". If you havent seen it, try watching the movie "A Time to Kill" sometime to give you a better idea of what I mean.
This is the second or third time you've brought up comparing your relationship to the death of someone by murder. Have you ever had a friend who was killed by murder?
I have. And you know what. There is no type of retribution that will ever bring a true sense of peace to those who have lost their friend or family member. You are getting your information, from where, a John Grisham novel. Really? I mean, really? By that logic, Tom Cruise is a pretty good lawyer and lawyers in the South look like Matthew McConathy...that is, when he and Tom Cruise aren't hamming it up in Tropic Thunder. And that person you said that was satisfied with vigilante justice, Samuel Jackson...well, dude, I'm tired of these MF snakes on this MF thread.
When I read your post, it made my skin crawl in a way that I can't even explain. You clearly have NO idea what it's like to lose someone. Someone who LITERALLY can never come back to you because someone else has taken their life. Your ex left you; there's nothing stopping her from coming back, you know, because she's alive and well, and clearly in a better state of mind avoiding your madness.
Tell me what in the h-e-l-l do you think that retribution will satisfy? What wrong will it correct. None. Got it. None.
Listen to survivors who have been through true horrors, war, genocide, famine, disaster. In almost all of those cases, you will repeatedly hear about why forgiveness is the choice they make. Focusing on punishment corrodes your soul. Look at the research, look at stories of survivors from Auschwitzch to those bombed at Nagasaki.
Want something to do instead of look up archaic legal statues about emotional balm or whatever the f__k you call it. Google "Don't Kill in Our Names." It's stories of people who had family and friends murdered...the perpetrators were sent to the death penalty and it's their story about why they didn't want the state to kill that murdered.
You have NO RIGHT to speak for people that you know nothing about.
At first it seemed that it was a bad situation you were in, but now it seems that things make sense about why your ex ditched your mooching butt. You don't have a job, yet use your time to look up ancient laws that wouldn't help you at all. Instead of using that time to look for jobs, you might as well be learning how to become a wagon wheel maker.
Then you want to contact the OM's mom, an elderly lady who has nothing to do with you or your D, in the hopes that she'll take your wacko side?
And then comparing the loss of a relationship to a murder? Sad.
