8 weeks until D Day!!

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Another evening ruined!!! My S7 has a football tournament which my H is taking him to. My S7 doesnt want the OW to be there. She had said she would be at his next match. So tonite without my knowing my S7 when my H called he asked if she would be there. My H said Why?. This really upset my S7 as it took alot for him to just ask and I guess he wanted his dad to say Ok, not why? He doesnt feel really comfortable asking my H those types of questions and gets really nervous.

My S7 was in tears and I tried to console him. In the meantime my H tried to call back and my S10 put the phone down on him.

Eventually I talked to my H. Told him that this is what my S7 wants. My H said it isnt - the last time they were all together they had alot of fun. So he was shocked that my S7 asked and he doesnt believe him. He said it was all me, that my sons were feeding off my bitterness and that I was feeding them this stuff. So what am I supposed to do - promote the relationship. Make sure that I make them like her? Ok, I do say a couple of things, nothing too drastic but I am only human.

I dont agree with them spending every time with their Dad with her as well. They know this and so does he. I think he should spend what little time he has with them with them and not her. For goodness sake, we are not even D yet. He has had her around them every time he has had them, including their first little vacation.

I am really lost as to what to do. I want to protect my sons, but my H just wont believe me. My sons cant tell my H how they actually feel as they are scared and dont want to hurt his feelings.