How exactly does retribution help soothe the heart? Justice and revenge are two very different things. Do you think a mother who had their child murdered feels better once the murderer is behind bars? They may feel justice has been served but do you think it somehow soothes their heart? No.
If the murderer is just put behind bars it wont likely do anything, but if the murderer is sentenced to death...or if the mother is the one to go after and execute the murderer, vigilante style, it could bring her some relief. It harkens back to the notion of "an eye for an eye". If you havent seen it, try watching the movie "A Time to Kill" sometime to give you a better idea of what I mean.
Originally Posted By: CityGirl
Look to yourself first. You have provided example after example of how you are unable to make yourself feel better. You said when your child was very young you were the one staying up all night caring for her while she cried but nobody was there for you. You are a man. You be there for you.
I dunno...to me that sounds a bit sexist...or a double standard at least. Because I'm a man I have to be strong...I'm not allowed to need support or be vunerable? Not all men spend their days drinking beer, watching football, and scratching themselves.
I'm a human being...with all the emotions, flaws, shortcomings, etc that any human being can have. To me all this being a strong man stuff is a bunch of baloney...my gender shouldnt define how I'm allowed to feel, react, or need...and it certainly shouldnt be held against me if I choose not to be the typical "dont show your feelings and dont talk about your emotions" male.
