I am 'starving' for some affection and love to go along with the 'commitment'. Before, I didn't have a commitment from him, but I did have feelings from him; now it's the opposite and it feels so yucky.
Maybe this is an Opportunity, for you to show him how you can derive good feelings from force of commitment, rather than the backwards-and-broken mindset of deriving commitment from feelings.
This is what you've been aiming for after all, yes? To have commitment, when feelings are low? So now, use that commitment, to do what you can to restock those feelings. Deliberately, rather than hoping for a "lucky wind to blow through", as it were?
How to do that? I dunno, you know the two of you better than I do So use your knowledge of the two of you. And maybe even explicitly say, "I know both of us are feeling down... so how about we go do (whatever), because that often makes both of us feel better"
Show him how to be "intentional" about moods, and after a few (hundred) times, maybe he'll even start picking up the skill himself
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
