Lost - Understood. Trust me if I do not need to get additional proof I will not. I just made an appt with another attny to cross reference what mine is telling me. I just want to ensure that I am not taken advantage of. That is all. That is all. I will continue to stand for her as long as I can. I want to stay in my home and anything that I need to do to ensure that I will do. I cannot control what she does but I can control what I do. I do not want to air the dirty laundry - trust me I do not but if this is needed to give me a better shot of remaining in the house then so be it. At the end of the day, I do not believe that our system should reward someone from "breaking a contract". It is unfortunate that our system does not enforce this..at least not in my state. I have seen way too many guys take a beating. Now W has said in the past that she wants to end this nicely...so do I so do I. If waiting does not hurt my chance at 50/50 and staying in the home then wait i will. The crappy part of all of this is the impact to the kids. And please no one tell me that they will "adapt". My sons will be hurt - they are 16 & 14 and are VERY attached to W. My D is 8 and she is very attached to D. This whole sitch sucks.

Having vented a bit...I still stand...I still detach...I still work on me. I will get thru this a changed man for sure - better...well I hope so. The hard part will be detaching today but I know that I can do it. I will continue to be civil. If spoken too I will answer and answer nicely. I'll be increasing my GAL activities big time. For those of you who pray please pray for me and my family. Pray for healing and forgivness.

I promise everyone this..I will not confront. Now what do I do if she confronts me? I was planning on saying...I'm not ready to talk about it and then walk away.

"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter".
"Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!"
"Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans