How do I act?

[Surviving03]

you are right... i just dont want it to be all weird... but i know i wont get any sleep on the couch

[Cautious]

I agree. It's your bed. You made it, you lie in it. HIS bed consists of his walking away, which is why you'll see him walking away to the couch if he's uncomfortable sharing a bed with you.

[jasper67]

I agree- it's your bed, you've been sleeping in it...if he makes a stink he can go to the couch

[dburt]

DO NOT LEAVE YOUR OWN BED FOR HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Also, chocolate milkshakes helped me get some calories in me, you can kind of suck on it for long periods of time without making it feel like you are forcing yourself to eat.

Again, DO NOT LEAVE THAT BED OR YOUR ROOM, it is the marital room, if he wants out of it, his ass can go to sofa city.

Burt

[Surviving03]

ok somebody help me QUICK! my husband just sent me a random email just a minute ago... saying this and only this: "I just wanted to tell you that I bought a car... spontaneous and stupid I am sure but you have probably come to expect that from me"......wtf??!! first of all, we have a car and we live in Turkey and we are only allowed one car and whether he sends me home or not, he will not be allowed to bring it here... and he still has 6 more months here.... ok second, he is in IRAQ, which means this had to be online shopping (dumb dumb dumb!) and I have NO IDEA what kind of car...how much... or what he paid for it.... oh my god... what do I say back to him??!!

[jasper67]

I wouldn't go too crazy over it...JUST WAIT BEFORE YOU REPLY TO ANYTHING.


When you reply...

"Thats greaT! What did you get?"

Or see if someone has something better...

[Surviving03]

i am sooo pissed... but at the same time, trying to decide why he felt the need to tell me... how he even bought it...etc

[Surviving03]

im going to say this: Well... I am a little shocked, but I am sure you made a good decision. I hope you like it.

complete 180 for me!

but oh my lord... i am mad... my H is NOT very responsible with money and i could bet my life on the fact that he prob didnt make a very sound purchase... how could he, he is in iraq?! i am really being tested right now...

[rr22]

Complete 180 is don't even say shocked. Say, "Great. Sounds like fun. Talk to you soon."

[Surviving03]

so... he definitely wasnt testing me...i called the bank and he did in fact get an auto loan out..... if this isnt midlife crisis in his 20's... i dont know what is... my stomach is just in knots... because i know that if we stay together this has created a huge financial burden for us...