Since the fight I have tried to do a 180 completely:
-Husband complained that I nagged and was controlling. I have stopped asking him where he is going, stopped asking him what he is doing, stopped asking him to help around the house, I have basically I have not asked him to do anything. There are piles of trash in our backyard that have been sitting there for a month that he hasn’t taken out but I have not said anything. He has let the dog mess on the floor and not cleaned it up but I still have not said anything. I normally would ask him to get up (he works at night and I liked to eat lunch with him because its one of the few times I see him) – I stopped doing that and now he just sleeps until 3 or 4pm.
You wrote that you stop asking him to do anything and stopped nagging him but then you wrote about the dog poop situation and the dog haircut and the dog vet and the carpets getting cleaned - this was all nagging. So which is it? Did you stop nagging or did you continue to do the same thing over & over again?
