My UFO (unbelievably fabulous observations)

[Gardener]

I'm really not one of those people who can't say no in general. it's just in romantic relationships that I subvert my own needs--and don't even realize I'm doing it until I can look back at it. and it seems I'll put up with almost any crap behavior from an intimate partner as long as it starts out normally.

I understand. I'm not that way with everybody, in every area of life. Just friends, family. Loved ones.
But that's more than enough to need to finally address it, take it on.