Serenity, First, why send it at all? Second, does your L approve? Third, my thoughts:
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After a year the time has come ...I am filing for a divorce. Below are the stipulations I have...If we can come to some sort of agreement agree, then we can file this uncontested...Please let me your Lawyer know what stipulations you have/don't agree with/want to change so I may let my lawyer knowyour positions on these stipulations and provide a response to my L.. I am being represented by X Name/X Firm, X address.
S is old enough to decide to see me or not...While I would prefer he did, I am not pushing it at this time however I am leaving that option open.Due to older S's age, I'm sure the court will strongly consider his preference in deciding his living/visitation agreements.
Younger S needs his father - his fathers time - so I insist upon his visitatiion consisting of at least 2 full weekends a month, 3 weeks in the summer, major holidays every other year. This is non-negotiable.
I wantwill have the first right of refusal whenever you have youngest S.
In lieu of my requesting my rightful spousal support I would like myI'll accept your continuing to provide my health and dental to be carried through xxxxxxx...I will of course be responsible for co-payments (deductibles?)pay any co-payment and any work that needs to be done.as well as required paperwork submissions, etc.
Naturally, you will continue to provide medical and dental coverage for your sons.You carry the medical and dental for the boys as well andCo-payments and other related out-of-pocket expenses will be shared equitably.
I keep my military ID and 1/2 your retirement.This is a given in almost all cases.Leave it out. Why p!ss him off? It will be better coming from his lawyer when the time comes.
Child support for S will be set within the court of course will be mandated by the court.
If S comes back to live with me, I reserve the right to refile for child support to include him.
TMI/TOO SOON**Any extra-curricular activities for the boys will be split evenly.
You have numerous things in storage so please let me know how you want to deal with that. Time and date to clean it out would be fine.
I am not sure how you want to divide everything up so please let me know this as well.
At the beginning of the school year, by August 1st, I ask for a set $300.00 a year to help with school clothes.
I want us to each carry a life insurance policy for no less then $500,000.00 and the other party is the beneficiary...If something happens to either one of us, the other has enough to take care of the boys safely and without worry.
I am leaving the option open to add or subtract from this based on your response.
Sincerely,
Me
Now, Serenity, having given my (unprofessional) thoughts above. I strongly suggest you not send this. It is allTMI/TOO SOON I think your Lawyer should simply have him served. That should be your opening salvo: To let him know you are divorcing him. The rest can and should come later. From your lawyer. To his lawyer. That's what they are for.
(((Serenity)))
Agree with Gardener. There's a reason that they put that little "v" in between the names of the parties; at this point, it's -- by definition -- adversarial (as it should be, in the legal sense).
Puppy [/quote]
ditto
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