No the lawyer wasn't agreeable with me notifying him first however I am trying to diffuse the anger by letting him know ahead of time...
I can't help but remember the way he acted upon being served the c/s out of the blue...
That was brutal and hateful and I don't want to have to go down that road again so I thought I would be nice and give him a heads up...
I have to strongly disagree with you here and agree with your lawyer. I doubt your letter will diffuse anything: he is going to react the way he is going to react.
He should hear your stipulations from his lawyer in a a professional manner in a professional, non/emotional setting, where he will have to respond maturely to someone he wouldn't dare act like an a$$hole to.
Gypsy wisely told me, simply: "Obey your lawyer. Period"
Extracting yourself emotionally from a marriage is one thing. You have been and are still doing that.
Divorce is business. Pure and simple. (Come to think of it, I think Gypsy said those last two things, too!)
And, sorry, but, "I thought I would be nice" time is over.
Be prepared with the mantra, "Have your lawyer bring that up with mine. I refuse to talk about it."
(((HUGS)))) ^^^^PRAYERS^^^^
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
