I started on this path years ago before I met H. I had learned to set boundaries a little with my family, realized that I was worth being treated well and not abusively, and to open myself to trusting someone. Then I met H. The IC at the time said I was "done" with IC and so I didn't realize I actually wasn't until all this happened. I guess I still remember how to trace back to the origin of certain behaviours/patterns to get to the root. I'm nowhere near "done" and probably never will be... but I will be "better"!
As for OW, I'd have thought that a psychologist would have been able to do her own "soul work".. but again I'm making assumptions though I have never met her in person.
I kind of get the feeling that maybe H needs her to be in his life right now because he is so fragile emotionally and if she wasn't he might do something suicidal.. But that might just be rationalization on my part... It still doesn't make the thought any easier, though I've been better the last few days at keeping the thoughts at bay.. at least for a while...
Last edited by DiamondGirl; 03/12/1006:46 PM. Reason: Darned typos!
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