Section in the SSM that is freaking me out

[Young at Heart]

I am hoping that your therapy session went OK last night for both you and your husband.

I think that his agreeing to therpay, his not having moved out, and that you have a small child at home are three things that you have going for you.

You are walking a delicate line of balance.

I would again urge you to really work hard on "getting a life" and becoming the sexiest, most facinating woman that your husband has ever met. You want to become a magnet for his interest and desire, without forcing yourself upon him. Have you thought of taking a class in belly dancing or pole dancing as a way of getting his attension and making him wonder who is this woman he is sharing a house with? Have you thought of hypnotherapy to help with weightloss or stress reduction? How about a massage therapy class where you will need someone to practice on (or take it with a girl friend)? There are a lot of interesting ways to get a life that could change attitudes on the part of your husband.

If you think that your husband is depressed you might want to see if you can't figure out how to get some exercise into him in a way that he wants. Walks are a great start.

While your child might be a little young to go on a walk; where I walk with my wife, I see couples with children in strollers and older children on small bikes with their parents walking nearby. You might tell your husband that you want to go for a walk with your child (in a stroller or something) and that for safety, you would appreciate his company some weekend day, if he isn't to busy. He might just do it, especially if you don't push relationship talk, but just keep it fresh air and exercise and focused on your child.

Good luck!

P.S. reading books and re-reading comments from HD SSM husbands (Like the Captain, SSMGuy, and others) on this website may help you understand how you deeply you hurt your husband, what he might be feeling/thinking and how you can learn to never go down that road again, should you be able to save your marriage.