Into my arms... #70

[flowmom]

Kalni, it's hard to be worrying about your parents' health. And the BIL/SIL situation...what a trigger for you. hugs to you...

I've been reading some of your old posts (not all of course, but here and there in the past). What I see is that it seems like the thread of your R has never been broken, even in the early months of separation. Your H has always let you know that he still feels connected to you, and vice versa. That gives me a lot of hope for your M

I think that the physical connection that you are building is so important. We "thinky" people can get lost in words, conversations, our heads. But so much of attachment occurs on a physical level, even if affection is not our LL.

You are protecting yourself a lot in your interactions with your H. Does it feel possible to say something like "talking to BIL reminds me of all that I have been through and I'm feeling really upset right now"? That's making yourself vulnerable and creating an opening for your H to be there for you. I know you know this...