Below is the email draft to my H for the divorce...It will go to my lawyer however I need to know if I am forgetting anything...Is it to emotional?
Veterans please feel free to help make the necessary changes...I have one shot to get this right and I want to do it right the first time and avoid any unnecessary time spent in court fighting.
((((Hugs)))
H...
After a year the time has come ...I am filing for a divorce. Below are the stipulations I have...If we can come to some sort of agreement then we can file this uncontested...Please let me know what stipulations you have/don't agree with/want to change so I may let my lawyer know.
S is old enough to decide to see me or not...While I would prefer he did, I am not pushing it at this time however I am leaving that option open.
S needs to see you and spend time with you so I am offering 2 full weekends a month, 3 weeks in the summer, major holidays every other year. You seeing him is non-negotiable.
I want the first right of refusal whenever you have youngest S.
In lieu of spousal support I would like my health and dental to be carried through xxxxxxx...I will pay any co-payment and any work that needs to be done.
You carry the medical and dental for the boys as well and we will split the co-pay/work done.
I keep my military ID and 1/2 your retirement.
Child support for S will be set within the court.
If S comes back to live with me, I reserve the right to refile for child support to include him.
Any extra-curricular activities for the boys will be split evenly.
You have numerous things in storage so please let me know how you want to deal with that. Time and date to clean it out would be fine.
I am not sure how you want to divide everything up so please let me know this as well.
At the beginning of the school year, by August 1st, I ask for a set $300.00 a year to help with school clothes.
I want us to each carry a life insurance policy for no less then $500,000.00 and the other party is the beneficiary...If something happens to either one of us, the other has enough to take care of the boys safely and without worry.
I am leaving the option open to add or subtract from this based on your response.
Sincerely,
Me
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
