Are regrets when you end a separation normal?

[TrentC]

I, as a woman, would not be insulted by that. Anyone else have any thoughts?

Many women need to feel that their spouses find them attractive, even after years of marriage; saying "I do" does not seal the deal for all time.

I can understand how OTM may not feel attracted to his wife, especially right now. But you saying "sorry, I just don't find you attractive" would be like would be like her telling you "sorry, but I think you're a crappy father and can't take care of your family". Even if it were true, who wants to hear that? No one wants to be torn down, especially by someone they care about.

Lotus has a good point; "Clarify" what you meant when you said that. Make encouraging suggestions on how she can do better. Compliment her when she makes the effort to dress better.

And then give it time; no one can change their habits, for good, overnight. Even if she makes an effort, she may backslide from time to time.