Had a bad night last night. Our S4 has a very difficult time gonig to bed every night. He will only let W put him to bed. Mostly becasue he can manipulate her. Well it had been getting better becasue I suggested to her that if he starts acting up to put him in bed and leave the room. Well, for some reason she broke down yesterday and started screaming at him like she used to. I absolutly HATE THIS!!!!! I get infuriated when she yells at him. So now I am on my way upstairs to seperate them and before I get up there she slams his door to his room and then the door to the room she is sleeping in these days. He is wailing like someone shot him and she is in bed under the blanket sulking. I talk with S4 and get him settled down and in bed for the night. He is upset because he knows that mommy is upset and he knows he did it. He keeps apologizing and crying then i get him settled again and in bed. I then go in the room to see if she is ok and if she is comming downstairs. She says, "no" and nothing else. So I close the door and go downstairs for the evening.
Why does the yelling get me upset? My father did it!!!! It is unproductive and just turns off the person you are yelling at and pisses everyone off. Not to mention makes you look like an arse, especially when you are an adult yelling at a 4 year old. I figure she is not just yelling at him but what is it. I think since she did not have a good upbringing that maybe her mom used to yell at her and that is what she learned and that is what she does.
Mothers out there, what do I do. I am worried on many levels. One, is she OK? Another, Is she going to hurt my boy? Or, what does this mean to me? Is she pissed at me and taking it out on him? I am woried!!!! Also, how do I approach her and let her know that this is not right and it is not acceptable behavior for a 39 year old woman? In our delicate relationship, what does that do to us? But I need to protect me and my boy. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!
