My UFO (unbelievably fabulous observations)

[hoosiermama]

if you've spent your whole life trying not to be a bother, how do you switch into a more "I'm worth it and I expect to be treated with love, respect, kindness, protection, and leadership?" attitude?

There's the rub, Hmama! Changing the behaviour. I have the same problem.

I'm thinking (hoping, actually) that some change will come as a direct result of seeing this so differently, of understanding my mistakes at a heart level. But beyond that--wow, I'm open to ideas! how does a doormat become more b*tchy?! (I mean that as--more self-protective, confident, self-assured!)