My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

[nicole8]

Lolawar-
Great advice. Thank you so much. I was reading about your sitch a few minutes ago and I really don't know how I would respond to the cell phone question... tough one. It sound like the MC/IC went well for you. That is great and I am sure it felt good to have someone listen to you and offer back advice and support.

I'm going to my first C session today for myself. I'm not sure what to expect really. I can talk and talk and talk about the situation, but I am hoping to hear some advice or ideas. Or maybe a little more understanding on what the depressed person thinks and feels.

I chose a male counselor in hopes that one day my H would be willing to work with a C, and I think he will have an easier time opening up and working with a male. Don't know if this is true, but I would love for him to at least try. At this point though, he seems pretty much happy doing his own thing vacationing over at his Mom's house and he doesn't have a problem....except that we are married. Lovely.

My H came home yesterday while I was at work. I used to always come home at lunch and he knows this. I don't know if he was there at lunch time, but he was at the house and left some of his odds and ends paperwork in the office that should be filed. So does he plan to still live at the house and that is why he is leaving his paperwork at our house? I have absolutely no clue, really don't think it means anything to tell you the truth.

I'm going to continue with no contact. However, it still seems a little wrong. Especially because the reason my H thinks we should divorce is because I don't talk about our relationship. On the other hand I think that is bs and he is just looking for blame and excuses to make me think it is true.

I do love bike riding and plan to begin on the weekends with my friend soon. Need some better weather first and then we will be off enjoying the outdoors.